Too Much Drama. Is It Okay to Share?

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Too Much Drama

You know the seasons of life when it seems like everything goes wrong and just when you think you are going to catch a break, the bottom falls out? Yeah. Me too.  I have tried to be a person who shies away from drama.  I would hear some people constantly complaining about all these awful things that keep happening to them, one after another. And I would think, “C’mon. There is no way all this is happening to you at once. And if it is, you must be doing something to bring it on. Just a drama lover.”

Well, I have since rethought those sentiments. When multiple things fell upon me and/or my family. All stress inducing things. The difference in me and “those other people,” is that I try not to talk about all of it much.  I guess that made me feel superior in some way. But my realization now is maybe that isn’t the right approach.  I mean, I am somewhat a private person and don’t like to share too many details of my “drama”. I often feel that others don’t really care about it or just don’t want to hear it.  But that might be an inaccurate perception on my part.

Is it Okay to Share?

The people I do confide in love me and care for me and sometimes just venting to them is a huge help. But somehow I feel like I am burdening others. What about you, do you ever feel like that?  I know there is one person who I can talk to and won’t judge or act indifferent to my problems. I talk to Him usually alone and in the quiet.  Even so, it is usually very cathartic in sharing our burdens with others.  Just for a listening ear.

What I have learned through this messy, difficult time is that we will ALL go through different seasons in our life. Some will be joyous, others heartbreaking. Some amazing, others horrible. We needn’t be afraid to share our hard times with others.  Find someone you trust to talk to. Just the simple act of sharing, can lighten our load. Yeah, it is okay to share.

Doing Good for Others Provides Benefits for Us As Well

I mentioned in an earlier post that I was working on my Goals for the Month of January.  I had 3 goals in mind.

  1. Start up a Home Management Binder.   Did that.
  2. Start a new way to Save Money for Vacations.   Started that.
  3. Do 3 positive things to help others, habitually.  Ok…that one I am having a harder time with. I have decided on one of the things. Donate regularly to our church food bank.  But I still haven’t come up with the other 2 things. I am looking for inspiration.  Should it be something for a family member?  A friend? A stranger or an organization?


I just don’t know.  Until I figure something out, I will try to look for opportunities to be a blessing to those I come in contact with in some way. Whether it’s just saying something nice, flashing a smile or holding a door open.

I have heard numerous times that one way to help us to live our best lives is to be involved with others in a positive way. Give of ourselves to others. Time, money, encouragement, whatever it may be.  When we look for ways to be of service to others it takes the focus off of us and our problems, whether they are real or perceived. Doing good and helping someone else, blesses us as well as them.

Think about 2 people in your life who you could do something nice for.  The cashier at the grocery store who looks like she is having a bad day? Your sister-in-law who is struggling financially? Think of ways you can help them. Step out of your comfort zone and tell the cashier how much you like the necklace she has on. Or the color of her hair.  Give your sister-in-law some cash to help her out…a little or a lot…anonymously or upfront.  You get the picture.  Look for ways to do seemingly random acts of kindness.

By doing so, you step out of your comfort zone and work on living your life to the fullest. Making someone else’s day, makes your day too!